A: That's funny, but your guesses were pretty dead on. TubaDad does marketing and business-development-type stuff for the daily grind, and he's also a professional musician on the side. He studied tuba in school and plays gigs all over California (some of our best trips are ones where we pack up at a moment's notice and get to hang out in neat places while he plays). I managed large web and editorial teams in my previous life. Nothing to do with kids, but it's probably why I like blogs. :-) And I keep meaning to mention that I'm not a great mom at all. I have a short fuse and not enough patience, my expectations are way too high for toddlers, and at least once a week I have to give myself a timeout and sit in the office and breathe and calm down. I don't even know how often I say to myself "You're 40 and they're THREE, chill the hell out!" Afterwards, if I mishandled something as usual, I apologize, hug, and figure out what I can do better next time. The thing I am really good at is having fun with the girls. My family has always been good at making anything fun. So I think I'm a fun mom, not a great mom. But I'm working really hard on that second part.
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Q from Karmen: What a cute picture of the girls. They look very happy to be perched on Santa's lap! Is Ro wearing tights or leggings? They are so cute, please tell where you found them. ( Dec '08)
A: Ro is wearing Hannah Andersson tights. They have THE BEST tights. This particular black and red pair is a beloved hand-me-down and they are getting so small I could barely squeeze her into them. I told Ro it was the last time she was going to wear them and got a little lip wobble. Anyhow, Hannah Andersson's motto is something like "tights you can actually hand down" and I have to say it's true. They really last. They have online stores and are also in some malls.
Q from Jenna: Have you ever run into someone that knew you from your blog that you were not planning on meeting? (Nov '08)
A: Hm, I had to think about this one. I think it's only happened twice. Once in the Hong Kong airport when we were on the way home after meeting the girls. A stranger ran up to TubaDad and the first thing she said was "Oh my gosh, where is M3, where are Ro and ReeRee!" And once at Gilroy Gardens this year a lady excitedly called out to us as we were passing by "Hey, I read your blog!!" I'm really shy (I know I don't write that way but I am) so I think all I managed to say was "Ohhh." Later TubaDad said "Why didn't you talk to that lady?" And I told him I couldn't thing of a single thing to say, so he said "Well gee, try saying something like 'hello, nice to meet you, what's your name, do you live in this area?'" Oh. Yeah. That would have been much better. So I'm all ready for the next time. If you ever run into us on the street, please do say hi.
Q from Ruth in Canada: A long time ago I read you had purchased fake reading glasses for the girls. My girls have asked for them for christmas from Santa. Where did you order them? (Oct '08)
A: The cute fake glasses were ordered online from Candy Apple Costumes. They come in pink, black, red, and white and were only $7. The girls both like the red ones the best "because they look like mama's glasses."
Q from trying4two99: Are you planning on adding more "twinadoes" to the family? If so, do you plan on adopting from the same area of origin that you got the girls from or somewhere else? (Oct '08)
A: We don't have any plans to add to our family right now. I think TubaDad and I both feel like we're finally (after two years) getting our feet back under us. Raising twins is incredible, amazing, wonderful, and whatever other cool adjectives you can come up with, but it is also without a doubt the hardest thing either of us has ever done.If we ever did decide to adopt again, though, I know in my heart we'd choose the China program.
Q: What kind of camera do you use? (Oct '08)
A: I use a Nikon D300 for most of my photos. I've got a few different lenses for it:- Nikon AF Fisheye 10.5mm 1:2.8G ED- Sigma 30mm 1:1.4 (I think this is my fave lens so far)- Nikon AF 70-300mm 1:4-5.6G- Nikon 18-200mm 1:3.5-5.6 G ED VR- Nikon AF-S 18-55mm 1:3.5-5.6G VRI've been having focus problems lately and recently sent the camera in for repair but the problems still aren't resolved.I also used to carry an old beat-up Canon Elph Powershot SD-500 in my purse at all times. It was stolen along with my purse in mid October. Anyhow most of the pictures taken away from the house, or the quick candid videos you see on the blog, were with that camera. Not because it was particularly great, but because it was always handy. I'll be replacing it soon and would welcome any suggestions for a tiny point-and-shoot camera.
Q: What is that drawer-thing you have between your car seats in the minivan, how is it anchored, and are those cupholders on it? (Sept '08)
A: We tend to kludge everything around here to "improve" it. For the minivan, I got three plastic drawers from Target, we screwed them together, used bungee cords to hold them in place but still be removable so we could take out the console and use the back row of seats, added velcro strips as drawer latches, and screwed adjustable cup holders to the top (purchased in the auto section of Target). It works perfectly to hold the girls' snacks, drinks, babydolls, etc. on the top, and the drawers are stuffed with jackets, blankets, hats, extra wipes, sunglasses, and more.
Q: The girls look taller recently. What size are they now? (Apr '08)
A: Yep, the girls have been eating bunches and growth-spurting lately. They've each gained 2 lbs and gotten about an inch taller since their last checkup in November. And I think most of the height increase has been recent, because their pants are suddenly too short. I had to let the hems out of 6 pairs so far this week (the girls have always been bigger than they are tall, so my mom is constantly hemming their pants up). They're wearing 2T or 3T bottoms and mostly 3T tops. Here are their stats as of yesterday:
- Ro: 35" tall, 30 lbs, 8.5W shoe
- Ree: 34 and 5/8" tall, 29 lbs, 8.5W shoe
Ree's foot used to be a half-size smaller than her sister's, by the way, which means she's caught back up and now they can swap shoes back and forth (hooray!! so much easier!). Ro also eats almost twice as much as Ree, but we haven't yet seen much difference in growth. It'll be interesting to see what happens as they get older. (posted 4/11/08)
Q from Ani: Do your daughters pick out their own outfits or do you dress them in colors they prefer? (March '08)
A: I usually just pull two complementary outfits out of the closet and then ask who wants to wear what. They get all excited and each grab one (usually not the same one, luckily). Ro used to prefer pink while Ree preferred yellow, but they seem to be out of that phase now.
Q from GirlSpeaks: Why do your girls sleep on mattresses on the floor instead of cribs or toddler beds? Just curious as to the reasoning behind this! (March '08)
A: It's been kind of complicated ever since the earthquake in October. :-) Ree sleeps on a mattress on the floor, and Ro sleeps in a different room in her crib. Reason being that Ro still loves her crib, while Ree wouldn't get near anything other than a plain mattress after she was shaken around in the crib during the earthquake. The girls also sleep in different rooms right now. We originally used the separate-rooms idea as a threat when the girls started staying up until midnight every night jumping and playing. Little did we know they'd actually like it. The first night we came in and said "Ok, you girls didn't settle down, so we're going to have to separate you" and Ree grabbed Ro's pillow and shoved it at her yelling "Here Ro!" We were stunned. It's been separate rooms ever since. We keep trying to put them back together but they seem to like their own space. Whatever... I'd really, really love to get them back into the same room sometime soon, but if they're happier this way then that's ok too. In the back of my mind I suspect that they have so much together-time they just might always enjoy having a room each girl can call her own. We'll see...
Q: How did "BobBob" get his name? (Feb '08)
A: My dad originally wanted the girls to call him "Grampa." But before it could catch on, back at our first Thanksgiving if I remember correctly, ReeRee heard everyone calling him by his first name, "Bob." Sometime after the turkey was served, she leaned toward him and said (in a hilarious gravelly little voice) "Hi Bob!" She was smirking like mad, and so proud of herself. We were all just rolling on the floor laughing, which encouraged both girls to do it more. My dad decided to go with the flow after that and become "GramBob," which the girls (who have trouble with G's) have pronounced as "BobBob" ever since.
Q: I love that your girls wear their bracelets. How did you "train" them to keep them on? They must be indestructible, seeing as the twinados are wearing them. Can you share where you purchased them? (Feb '08)
A: The bracelets were a gift from good friend "Moggie" (Maggie), and I think she got them from Amazon.com. We put them on the girls the day we met them (and lucked out that we got them on two different arms, Ro on the right and Ree on the left). I think they've been there so long that the girls just don't notice them. That's the only reason I can think of that they haven't been torn to bits yet.
Q: What size shoes do the girls wear? (Jan '08)
A: I need to go get them measured again (bad mom, waiting too long) but their shoes are a size 8 wide right now. They either both wear the same size or they're different by a half size on any given month. When the girls first came home from China (at 13 mos old) they wore Robeez soft-soled leather shoes (awesome!) in a size 6-12mos. We pretty quickly graduated to hard-sole shoes since they were running outside. Ked's Daphne shoes were (and are) a fave and I think we've had them in every size from 4.5 to 8 so far.
Q: Where do you get the girls' clothes? (Jan '08)
A: All over the place! Basics like tees, jeans, or tights are usually from Children's Place, Hannah Andersson, or Old Navy. Some of the neatest clothes are hand-me-downs from other awesome twin moms. Some fancy clothes are from Macy's (I like the GreenDog line), BabiesRUs (the girls' Christmas-card outfits), or online boutiques like Polka Dot Patch (their bday outfits).
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